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How Can I Help Someone Else?

Call us yourself to talk directly with an advocate to learn about how you can best help. Encourage her to call an organization that can help:

  • Noah Project: 1.800.444.3551 or 325.676.7107
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-S.A.F.E.
Calls are confidential - No one will pressure the victim to do something they do not want to do.

The Noah Project's Hotline

Our hotline is not just for victims. If you are worried about someone else, the hotline advocate will:
  • Talk to you about identifying abuse
  • Give you some tips for talking to the person you're worried about
  • Provide information about safety planning
  • Provide referrals and information about available resources
  • We can give you information about how you can help your loved one. We cannot extend services to victims through a third party, so in order to get help, victims must contact us directly.

Don't Judge

Many victims don't reach out to others because they fear judgment over what is happening to them or they fear being judged for not leaving. Remember that what is happening to her is not her fault. Don't Give Up! Leaving an abusive relationship permanently is a death-defying act that usually takes a long time and requires a lot of hard work. Abuse is about control; most victims are tied to their abusers by legal, family, and financial ties that take time to break. Most victims of family violence will return to the relationship more than six times before finally leaving for good.

Educate Yourself

Learn about family violence, the barriers to leaving a dangerous relationship, and the resources and options that are available in your area.
Keep a journal of any abuse that you see. Include the time, date, what happened, and the names of any other witnesses. Whenever it's safe, encourage the victim to tell the truth to doctors and medical professionals, make police reports, and contact the local shelter. Remember that involving people and authorities outside the relationship may increase her danger level. Encourage, but don't pressure.

Encourage Her

Remind her that what is happening is not her fault, that she doesn't deserve what is happening, and that she can have a better life!

Stay in Touch

Victims of violence are often isolated from friends and family. Do everything you can to stay in touch with her. Give her opportunities to get out of the home and spend time with others.

Provide Material Support

Consider offering help with transportation, a place to stay, or with child care.